” Rosalind Sedacca, CLC, and author of 99 Things Women Wish They Knew Before Dating After 40, 50 & Yes, 60! “What are you each hoping to learn, achieve, and understand from this experience? Reflect on your personal challenges, goals, and aspirations.
Most important of all, ask yourself, ‘How will I know I want to get back together again?
’” Sedacca gives examples: “I’ll be confident you’re sincere about looking for meaningful employment” or “You’ll have attended a three-month rehab program and come out committed to sobriety.” Did you and your significant other discuss the boundaries of it?
“Often, the desire to ‘separate’ is really the desire to break up but you don't have the nerve to say that outright,” Sedacca says.“When you establish boundaries and issues you want to address in advance, you then have guidelines for measuring results.