Voices Coming from Off the Page: WHY DID YOU CHOOSE TO, WHY DIDN’T YOU JUST, WHY WOULD YOU, WHY COULDN’T YOU.Text: It’s important to remember that society very often places the responsibility for preventing harassment, stalking, assault, and abuse on women, femmefolk, and other groups who are likely to experience sexual/intimate violence or assault.Person 5: We’re expected to perform risk calculations comprehensively and accurately all the time, and we’re expected to always choose correctly and prudently.-An escalated risk of violence or retaliation due to lack of public observation if I have to extract myself from unwanted advances… ” Who was that guy in your apartment all Friday evening then?Text: In the unlikely event that you do assault me, here’s what I will get when I try to speak up about it to authorities or others: -Why did you go home alone with him? RH: So you’re (insistently) asking me to meet under circumstances that pose increased risk.When you’re dating, you may get lots of advice on keeping yourself safe. Risk is balancing the likelihood that something will happen against the severity of consequences or outcomes if it does happen. they’ll probably quack a lot and peck me (likelihood of something negative happening – high).At the same time, you can get pressure to be carefree. Then you have to decide what your risk threshold is – how risky something has to seem before it’s not acceptable to you. Person 3: I’m going to wade through this group of angry ducks! But I’m not going to get anything more than some light peck-bruising on my shins (consequences – mild). But if you’re not…the potential outcomes are bad to severe.
🙂 There’s a bar I like on College Street – or is there somewhere you’d prefer to grab a drink or a coffee? Person 1: …Wow, I think it’s pretty messed up that you’re just default assuming I’m a creepy rapist or something. That would be a lot more comfortable for me for our first meeting.