A grown man is unlikely to say to a grown woman, "You're my backup if Jessica says no." It's socially acceptable for adults to go without a crush for a week, a month, a year.
Play sports games on Xbox or Playstation with your child. Still, like anyone in middle school, she can thoroughly explain relationship etiquette, name all the couples in her grade (seven at press time) and capture in one brief sentence all that seems strange about middle school romance: "They ask you out, then they don't talk to you.There's no point."Certainly a small minority of middle schoolers are having sex, and another small group pays no attention to the whole crush thing.The grown world is dying to know what it means for a middle schooler to have a girlfriend or boyfriend in today's News-at-11 era of supposed oral sex parties and sluttier-than-thou dating shows.
Kids from Howard, Fairfax and Montgomery counties agreed to explain, and one of them, sixth-grader Kimiya Memarzaden, gives an answer that is charmingly coy."Going out," Kimiya explains, "is being more than friends and less than actually going somewhere." Kimiya herself has never gone out with anyone at Hammond Middle School in Laurel; she is more animated talking about ponies than about boys.Not every kid is experiencing romance in the same way.