Discuss how obtaining the blessings of eternal marriage is similar in principle to obtaining anything worthwhile. Emphasize that eternal marriage is far more precious and worth working for than almost anything else we do in life. It is a matter of following a certain program to reach a definite goal.Read the following statement of President Spencer W. If you fail in following a program, you fail in attaining the goal.(Do the things that will make them worthy to receive a temple recommend—pay tithing, support Church leaders, keep the Word of Wisdom.) You could summarize these points under two headings on a chart: “What I Will Do,” and “What I Won’t Do.” You could post this chart in a prominent place.To help family members understand that they must obey the specified law before they can receive any blessing, point out an important accomplishment of a family member such as graduation from school or college, a special award in Scouting, or ability to play a musical instrument.Ask the family member the following questions: Display a picture of a temple and a sealing room.
Kimball on the doctrine of eternal marriage: “Marriage by civil officers or local leaders is ‘til death do you part,’ and terminates with death. Even in college work, if you never registered properly, never attended your classes, never did the things which are required by the college, you would never receive your degree.Certainly you cannot expect the eternal program to be less exacting.” (“The Importance of Celestial Marriage,” Oct. 4–5.) Discuss specific ways in which family members could prepare for an eternal marriage.Like the ripples caused by a pebble cast upon a placid pool, the decision you make in regard to where, with whom, and by whom this event will take place will affect not only you, but the lives of many others, especially your children.” (El Ray L. To do this, you could write questions like the following on a chalkboard or on wordstrips.You could have two columns under the questions, one labeled “Temple Marriage” and one labeled “Civil Marriage.” Have the family answer each question for both a temple and a civil marriage and put their answers in the appropriate column.
Point out to family members that many of the decisions they make in their lives will have an effect similar to the effect of the pebble on the water.The effects of these decisions will continue on and on, touching other people’s lives besides their own.