Jerry Seinfeld wisely observed that breaking up with someone was like trying to tip over a soda machine. Someone throws away a prominent career because they have fallen in love (or lust) with someone they shouldn’t.
That means six months without phone calls, emails, and “how you doing? It’s six months where you are completely out of each other’s lives so that new relationships and new feelings can grow. You both need the judgment and restraint that comes with sobriety. Build a Different Dynamic Opposite sex friends need clear boundaries — especially if they are involved in romantic relationships with other people.
If after that period of time, you still want to create a friendship with your old flame, you can start doing the groundwork. Choose Your Venues Wisely Attraction is a funny thing. You may attend a 30-year high school reunion, see an old boyfriend, and have the same giddy feeling you did as a 16-year old. There are things about your interaction that need to change if you’re going to be friends.