He gradually started to switch our talk from professional to personal and I found his confidence very attractive.
When the relationship ended, I didn't want a new boyfriend straight away and I definitely wasn't ready to fall in love again.
I needed time to heal and I also wanted to enjoy being single for a while.
But like the vast majority of us, I still had sexual needs which suddenly weren't being fulfilled. I stumbled into my first sex buddy relationship almost by accident: I walked into a bank and he was working there as a teller.
Because of the setting, he had to be professional but there was this playful flirtation underneath that I decided to take and run with.
According to Lifehacker reader Polly, a 'friends-with-benefits' arrangement leads to more fun, less heartache and better sex. Some people prefer the phrase 'f*ck buddy' while others go with 'friends-with-benefits'.
But it can also be an unpredictable minefield that needs to be navigated with extreme caution. Whatever you call it, it amounts to the same thing — a trusted acquaintance with whom you engage in no-strings-attached sex.
My name is Polly and I'm a big believer in the concept of sex buddies.Finding a willing and able sex buddy is only part of the challenge though.