I also advocate because Black women are at a unique dating disadvantage in America.Marriageable Black women outnumber marriageable Black men by the millions.Which bills are they paying to have this much power in your life?Yet we’re statistically the least likely to date interracially. My goal is to encourage Black women to exercise all of their options. Discount no one because of melanin, or lack thereof. Candice: What advice would you offer women who don’t date interracially because of what people might think? I know a few women who would never date interracially, despite the knowledge that men of other races are interested in them.
I’ve often been called by my critics, “The Chief Bed Wench,” because I’m seen at the forefront of this issue. But many Black women are sensitive to that kind of insult and outright disapproval. We want the people in our lives to approve of the men we bring home. It comes down to what makes you happy and what makes your heart feel like it’s found its home.
It kind of throws a damper on the inclination to explore interracial dating if you know your parents said they would disown you if you ever brought home a white boy. I’m seeing more and more Black women finding their bliss with the men who love and accept them, regardless of race. If you’re lonely and sad, but your entire peer group (including family) approves of the idea of never dating a non-Black man even if he was utterly kick-ass amazing, can you really say those people in your life want the best for you?
When I started dating my husband back in 1999, there was absolutely no place, discussion or support for Black women who were dating and/or married interracially.
Necessity is the mother of invention when it comes to the work I do!
Unlike other dating experts, hers is a success story. Here’s what she had to say: Candice: Can you tell us a little bit about yourself and how you’ve become an advocate for interracial couples?Christelyn: As with most advocacy, my motivation comes from having my own experiences.