Before becoming involved with them, it is important to sit down and have a good long talk about what those triggers might be, based on their past experiences and on the insights they have gained during their counseling sessions and during their time in AA or NA.
With good communication about this topic, the partner of someone in recovery can do a lot to keep the process on track – while protecting themselves at the same time.
While recovering addicts or alcoholics can make excellent companions, there is one principle that should be followed without exception – do not become involved with someone in recovery from substance abuse unless they have been clean and sober for at least one year.
This is the advice that addiction counselors always give to their patients, and it should go double for anyone thinking about becoming involved with a former drug or alcohol abuser.
Recovering substance abusers often possess excellent attributes that are forged by the intensity of their personal experiences.They are often very compassionate and non-judgmental in their relations with others, will not shy away from confronting difficult problems head on, and will usually be right there to help those they love through their own darkest hours.Unexplained absences, a failure to return phone calls, showing up late, and explanations for behavior that don’t ring true are a just a few indications that things have gone amiss – and when something is amiss with a recovering addict or alcoholic, unfortunately there is very good reason to assume the worst.All recovering addicts have certain triggers that could lead to relapse.
When they finally manage to get past all of the chemical baggage that they had been carrying with them for so long, what you will find in most instances is that former addicts have just as many outstanding qualities as anyone else, and this can make them a joy to be around for family and friends alike. Is it wise to form a more intimate connection with an ex-addict or alcoholic, no matter how dramatically they appear to have turned their lives around?
In looking at the experiences of others, what we can say is that many who have formed romantic partnerships with former substance abusers have come to regret that decision immensely, while others have been able to establish satisfying permanent relationships with those who have successfully put their past addictions behind them.